Do you know your love language? Or that simple words, actions or time can ensure you feel appreciated and loved?
Dragging myself out of a warm bed this morning, getting ready for the
daily school run routine I was struck by a feeling of loneliness and sadness,
despite being surrounded by my three daughters.
What is missing is my Special Friend, husband, my partner in all
things. He has only been away since Sunday afternoon and logically I know I am
loved and supported however the feelings are so real.
As I tied my shoes I remembered reading a book titled ‘The 5 Love
Languages’ by Gary Chapman. At the time it opened my eyes and explained why at
certain times in my life I have felt so loved and other times so alone and
helpless.
According to Gary Chapman’s books there are five love languages;
·
Words of Affirmation
·
Acts of Service
·
Receiving Gifts
·
Quality Time
·
Physical Touch
So, my love language is ‘Words of Affirmation’ and my Special Friend’s
language is ‘Touch’. We know this about each other and we also know the love
languages of our gorgeous girls.
Like a smack to the face this morning I realised that with my Special
friend being away for the week my LOVE TANK IS EMPTY!!!
He has just started a new job and so is wrapped up and excited about
where he is and what he is doing. I understand that but my need for love and
obvious lack of it over the past four days has me feeling upset and angry. Knowing
I’m not committed to that or taking my frustration out on the girls I resort to
texting my Special Friend.
Kim: Take a moment...what is my love language? Thus what do I need
from you while ur away? (bewildered looking emoticon attached)
Special Friend: Words of affirmation! I LOVE YOUR AND I APPRECIATE YOU
AND ALL THAT YOU ARE DOING WHILE I AM NOT HOME. I WILL BE HOME SOON. I MISS YOU
AND WILL TALK TO YOU LATER IN THE DAY. I LOVE YOU (lotsa emoticons blowing
kisses plus love hearts attached) And yes I am shouting this loudly so you can
hear me and the rest of the world will know too (smiley face emoticon attached)
The response was instant. My
eyes swelled with tears and my love tank filled up – not all the way but I’m
sure when he gets home tomorrow afternoon my love tank will be filled to
brimming.
Do you know your love language? Can you relate to what I’m talking
about? Find out and you will have a head
start to feeling great.
